William "Fay" Harbour

Fay Harbour, American veteran and Phillips Petroleum retiree, died Friday in Bartlesville. The nearly lifelong Bartlesville resident was 89 and cherished his family from his first breath to the last he took on earth. Fay was born the son of William Wayne and Ollie Irene (Dixon) Harbour on October 31, 1933, in Norman, Arkansas - and just minutes apart from his twin brother Ray. This started a lifetime of the boys being inseparable and generally always getting into trouble together. Fay graduated from Norman High School in 1950 and went on to serve in the U.S. Air Force. He was stationed in Korea as a radar operator along the Military Demarcation Line between South Korea and North Korea. While stationed stateside near Valdosta, Georgia, at Moody Air Force Base he met Iva McElhattan. Iva was from Pennsylvania and was working at Howard Johnson. They met at the local drive-in and Fay fell instantly head over heels in love. Iva eventually talked to him but she noticed he had a six pack of beer and stated she didn’t talk to men who drank. The six pack went out the window and they were united in marriage in 1955. Fay and his new bride along with Ray moved to Bartlesville where they made their home in Bartlesville to work at Phillips Petroleum Co. They transferred to South Carolina for a few years before returning to Bartlesville. Fay retired in 1993 after 38 years of service as a computer analyst. Iva preceded him in death during 2004 after 49 years of loving marriage. Fay and Iva enjoyed time spent together - she tended her flowers and he cared for his yard. They raised a large garden, free of weeds and pests. They canned the vegetables and were generous with the ones they didn’t. When not working in the yard Fay and Iva were enthusiastic bowlers, participating in league play and tournaments near and far. Even their favorite tournament which always fell on their daughter Debra’s birthday. Fay also enjoyed reading, mall walking and people watching. He was curious about the world and always had a story that started with “you wouldn’t believe what I saw.” When he had some free time, Fay would irritate his children and love on his grandchildren. Fay didn’t express his emotions but everyone knew they were loved. Fay is survived by his children Debra (Troy) Hollopeter and Mark (Ronda) Harbour; 7 grandchildren Ryan Brashear, Justin (Jenifer) Harbour, Stacy (Abby) Shull, Jessica (Justin) Fowler, Bridget (Hal) Vogt, Amanda (James) White and Colby (Amy) Hollopeter, 10 great grandchildren, Ryanna, Josie, Jade, Mack, Madison, Eliza, Morgan, Adriane, Tyler and Connor; and 1 great great grandchild Charlotte. He is preceded in death by his parents, wife, twin brother Ray and sister Lola Wayne Cooper. Visitation will be held on Tuesday from 12-8 and Wednesday 9-12 at the Davis Family Funeral Home & Crematory – Walker Brown Chapel, 4201 Nowata Road, Bartlesville, OK. Graveside services will be held on Wednesday, 2 p.m., at the Memorial Park Cemetery, with Pastor Randall Jones officiating. Services are under the direction of Carter Davis and the Davis Family Funeral Home & Crematory – Walker Brown Chapel. Online condolences and remembrances may be shared at www.DavisFamilyFuneralHome.com.

William "Fay" Harbour

October 31, 1933 - February 24, 2023